I’ve just got off of a couple of conversation with my two friends, a total disaster. My one friend steph and a bunch of her other friends have been just well ganging up on one of my best friends, and steph used to be very close with amanda they were both best friends too. Steph told me that her and her friends are just deciding to tell amanda they dont want to be her best friends anymore just OKAY FRIENDS. That sounded so cruel to me. I played sorta of guidance counselor with them. We did a three way call and discussed all the reasons steph thought amanda wasn’t being a good friend. Here’s some of here reasons that I realized too. CLINGYNESS, COMPULSIVE LYING, AND BEING JUST A BRAT(those are the problems with amanda). She gave some pretty good reasons for these things, and I started piecing together why amanda exactly is doing this stuff. You see amanda has lost a couple of people in her family lately and hasn’t been taking it very well. Shes been so clingy and lying so much because (she even admitted this to me on the phone 15 mins ago) she doesn’t want to lose her friends and she feels she needs to lie to impress us or think better of her. ABSOLUTELY NOT, is what I told here. When she was telling me all this steph wasn’t really helping she was just ignoring everything and making distractions so she left before I really got to hear some facts. Amanda was just crying and crying and I totally understood everything, because a matter of fact I was losing my friends too. Steph calls me back, poking into everything she told me and I’m pretty uneasy telling her whats going on. She apparently didn’t understand and we just IM’d each from there. As we all know writing to people with out actually facing them is a lot easier than full contact. She gets a little bratty from here telling me she just doesn’t care that amanda is doing this because of emotions, she says she still is going to tell her that she doesn’t wanna be best friends. This has to be making amanda even madder and hurting her emotionally. I tell steph to just put herself in amandas shoes and how that would feel if she was amanda. Steph doesn’t really understand, just saying she doesn’t care and what ever. I think amanda needs a second chance to just get herself together and take her emotions out on something else. I believe in second chances and steph isn’t making her chance easy. You apparently dont know my age, and to tell you the truth I’m not telling it to you because people base too many thing on age. Age is in fact nothing but a number it’s maturity that counts. If you knew my age you’d see how mature I actually am for my age, very mature actually. My friends…. not so much. All I was doing here was to help amanda and steph both at the same time but I just get squished for my help and my words are twisted by steph, and gets mad at me. I do not intend to ever hurt anybody but some people just interpret your advice or offers in a wrong way that they may find controlling. I’ve learned a lot about my friends today, but ironically I wish I didn’t just do what I did. Is it just me, or am I not supposed to be butting in… or is what I’m doing right. I’m so confused.
